Therapy for Birth Trauma, Pregnancy Loss, and Maternal Mental Health
Specialized online therapy across New York for maternal mental health, birth trauma, pregnancy loss, postpartum anxiety, and postpartum depression.
Does Your Birth Experience Still Feel Like It Isn't Over?
You might think:
"Why can't I stop replaying what happened?"
"Everyone else has moved on except me."
"I love my baby, but I can't stop thinking about the birth."
"I should be grateful…but I still feel broken."
"I panic every time I think about another pregnancy."
You don't have to carry this by yourself.
Does Motherhood Feel Harder Than You Expected?
Birth trauma
Pregnancy loss and grief
Constant mental load and overwhelm
Mom rage and emotional overwhelm
Postpartum anxiety and intrusive thoughts
High-functioning anxiety
Difficulty adjusting to motherhood
Fear of becoming your parents
Their birth keeps replaying in their mind.
They avoid talking about labor and delivery.
They feel disconnected from themselves after birth.
They can't stop wondering if something was their fault.
They experienced a NICU stay or emergency delivery.
They are grieving a pregnancy loss.
Anxiety has taken over daily life.
You don't have to carry it all alone.
What Brings Moms to Therapy?
How Therapy Can Help
Therapy can help you:
Heal from birth trauma and pregnancy loss
Feel less reactive and overwhelmed
Better regulate your nervous system
Reduce anxiety and intrusive thoughts
Build confidence in motherhood
Understand the roots of mom rage
Develop healthier boundaries and self-compassion
My Specialties
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Birth Trauma
A difficult, frightening, or traumatic birth experience can affect you long after delivery. Therapy can help you process what happened and move forward with greater confidence and self-compassion.
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Pregnancy Loss
Pregnancy loss can bring grief, trauma, anxiety, and isolation. You deserve compassionate support that honors your experience and healing process.
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Postpartum Anxiety
Racing thoughts, intrusive worries, and feeling constantly on edge are common signs of postpartum anxiety. You don't have to carry that burden alone.
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Mom Rage
Feeling angry, overstimulated, reactive, or guilty after snapping? Mom rage is often connected to chronic stress, trauma, and nervous system overload.
Birth Trauma Doesn't End When Your Baby Is Born
Many women assume their birth experience may not “count” as birth trauma.
That's simply not true.
Birth trauma can happen after:
emergency C-sections
traumatic vaginal deliveries
hemorrhage
NICU stays
feeling ignored or dismissed during labor
unexpected medical interventions
loss of control during birth
pregnancy loss
Whether your trauma came from what happened medically or how you were treated, your experience matters.
Therapy can help you process what happened so it no longer feels like you're reliving it every day.
What healing looks like:
→Healing from birth trauma and pregnancy loss
→Regulating your nervous system instead of living in survival mode
→Feeling more connected to yourself and your family
→Feeling less reactive and overwhelmed
→Managing anxiety without constant Googling
→Understanding the root causes of mom rage
→Feeling more confident in motherhood
Frequently Asked Questions About Maternal Mental Health
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Birth trauma isn't defined by what happened on paper—it's defined by how you experienced it. You can experience birth trauma after an emergency C-section, a difficult vaginal delivery, a NICU stay, a medical emergency, or even a birth that others describe as "healthy."
Many mothers feel dismissed, powerless, frightened, or unheard during labor and delivery, and those experiences can have a lasting emotional impact.
If you find yourself replaying the birth, avoiding conversations about it, feeling anxious about future pregnancies, or struggling to move forward, your experience matters. You don't need anyone else's permission to acknowledge that your birth was traumatic.
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Everyone responds differently to a difficult birth, but common signs of birth trauma include intrusive memories, nightmares, avoiding reminders of the birth, feeling constantly on edge, panic during medical appointments, guilt or shame about what happened, difficulty bonding with your baby, or feeling emotionally numb. Some mothers notice they become anxious whenever they think about another pregnancy or can't stop asking themselves what they could have done differently. If your birth experience continues to affect your emotions, relationships, or daily life weeks, months, or even years later, therapy can help you process what happened and begin to heal.
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Absolutely. Birth trauma doesn't have an expiration date. Many mothers don't seek therapy until months or even years after giving birth because they're focused on caring for their family or they assume they should be "over it" by now. Healing is still possible, no matter how much time has passed. Therapy can help you process unresolved emotions, reduce the intensity of traumatic memories, improve your relationships, and help you move forward without feeling stuck in the past.
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The best therapy for birth trauma depends on your unique experience and symptoms. Many mothers benefit from a combination of trauma-informed approaches rather than a single therapy method.
In my practice, I integrate Brainspotting, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Interpersonal Psychotherapy (IPT), attachment-focused therapy, and nervous system regulation to support healing. Together, we'll identify an approach that fits your needs so therapy feels safe, collaborative, and effective.
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Yes. One of the biggest misconceptions about birth trauma is that it only "counts" if something happened to the baby. In reality, many mothers experience trauma even when their baby is healthy. Feeling terrified, powerless, ignored, violated, or out of control during labor can leave lasting emotional wounds regardless of the outcome. Your feelings are valid, and you deserve support even if everyone tells you to "just be grateful." You can hold gratitude for your baby's health while also grieving or processing your own experience.
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Yes. Pregnancy loss can bring overwhelming grief, sadness, anger, guilt, anxiety, and feelings of isolation. Whether your loss occurred early in pregnancy, later in pregnancy, or after birth, your grief deserves to be acknowledged and supported. Therapy offers a compassionate space to process your emotions at your own pace, navigate the impact on your relationships and identity, and find ways to carry your loss while continuing to move forward. There is no right timeline for healing, and you don't have to go through it alone.
Meet Your Therapist, Kait Towner
Hi, I’m Kait. Welcome to a place of support.
I provide online therapy across New York for overwhelmed mothers navigating birth trauma, pregnancy loss, postpartum anxiety, postpartum depression, and maternal mental health challenges.
My approach combines trauma-informed therapy, Brainspotting, attachment-focused work, and nervous system regulation to help moms move from survival mode to feeling more grounded and connected.
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"⭐ ⭐ ⭐ ⭐ ⭐ Kait is an incredible and knowledgeable provider with years of experience. Her training & expertise relate strongly to parents, maternal and perinatal care, and trauma. She brings an understanding and supportive approach for growing families!"
– Rachel Bowen, LMHC